Help for Couples Who Can't Climax

Whether the issue is psychological or physical, here's how to get to the root of the problem so you can orgasm more often.

 

Achieving an orgasm can feel like an uphill battle sometimes, but with the right diagnosis and treatment, you can start climaxing more often.

 

Sex is fun, feels good, and is a great way to be physically and emotionally close to your partner. But without an orgasm, it can be a less satisfying experience for both of you. While some women may have difficulty achieving an orgasm and may never have truly experienced one, men can have orgasm difficulties as well, especially if there are physical or emotional issues at play in the relationship.
The good news is that the right diagnosis and treatment can teach you how to orgasm and have a satisfying sexual relationship. Read on to learn how.

Why You May Not Be Able to Climax

Fear can keep both sexes from experiencing orgasm, says Isadora Alman, a psychotherapist and board certified sexologist in San Francisco. "Being afraid of letting go, afraid of going crazy — or just fear in general," can all hinder your enjoyment, says Alman.

Physiologically, there could be other reasons. "It may just be that you're not getting the right stimulation," says Alman. If either a man or a woman is used to achieving an orgasm with his or her own hand, someone else's touch and body part might seem strange, she explains.

Some other potential reasons that men and women may not be able to climax include:

• A problem in the relationship
• Boredom in the bedroom
• An emotional or physical trauma, like rape or abuse
• Health conditions that affect nerves or hormone levels
• Being shy or embarrassed about sex
• Lack of education about orgasms, sex, and what stimulation works best for you
• Side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressants